Time to Update Your Professional Headshot?

Until you find a good photographer, professional headshots will probably always seem sort of excruciating — not just the process, but also the result. The stilted poses and clenched smiles.

I have lots of these pictures. One of them, from the late ’90s, my sister-in-law Kim nicknamed “The Law Offices of Gina DeLapa.”

Fortunately, two years ago, I found a photographer who changed all of this. So as I prepare to go back to her tomorrow for an update, it occurs to me that if you don’t love your professional headshot, something’s wrong.

And by love I don’t mean ga-ga — I just mean you should feel your picture captures you at your best. And, your headshot should look like the real you. If something about your appearance has radically changed (e.g., your hair, your weight, your smile, your age), it’s time for an update.

For myself, I don’t want to be that person who walks into a room to give a speech or seminar and people say, “Yikes — she looked so much younger online.” What does that do to credibility?

Here are 5 tip for getting a professional headshot you love:

1. Talk to the photographer before making an appointment. Ask if you can see samples of their work. The photographer doesn’t need to be your new best friend (of course) — but if anything about them strikes you as unpleasant or unlikeable, trust your gut.

More to the point, if their personality rubs you the wrong way, you’re probably not going to like how your picture turns out. Don’t assume that just because they worked well for your friend that they’ll be right for you.

2. Find out approximately how long the session will last, how much they charge, and what that amount covers. My photographer charges a little over $200, but I’ll walk away with a CD that includes everything, which I’m free to use however I wish. And, I know she’ll do the job right the first time.

3. Schedule the appointment for early in the day (mid-morning, for example), so you’re sure to look bright-eyed and wide awake. Your hair and clothes will also look better.

4. Bring three to five different outfits to capture different looks. I realize men don’t wear “outfits.” Still, whether you’re a man or a woman, you’ll be surprised when you look through all your pictures to discover which looks you like and which ones you don’t.

5. Consider how the photo will be used. For example, mine will be used primarily on my website — which of course has lots of red. So in my picture, I’m probably not going to wear hot pink, even though I love the color.

Bonus tip: Figure out what look you’re going for (e.g., professional, creative, friendly). Put another way, what are your best attributes? Share these with your photographer so he or she can keep them in mind while composing each shot.

Even if you’re not active on LinkedIn or Twitter, or otherwise don’t foresee a need for a professional headshot, it’s better to have one ready than to wish you did.

Assemble (and Evaluate) Your Personal Team

Who are the people who make your life easier? This morning, my college roommate told me she’d found a cleaning service (“I just want them to come once a month and dig me out”) as well as a carpenter.

If you could see my friend’s email, you would “hear” the excitement in her voice, because finally she was getting the help she needed. How about you?

Is it time for you to add a few professionals to your team? For example, I remember how good it felt when I figured out I didn’t have to do my own bookkeeping. About two years ago on the home front, I searched on Yelp and found an amazing handyman I’ve been using ever since.

As you think about each of the service professionals already in your life (or as you’re screening new ones), you might want to ask yourself a few key questions:

* Do I trust this person? Trust applies both to integrity and competence.
* Does he or she make my life easier — or harder? Beware the high-maintenance service professional.
* Is he grateful for my business? And do I show my thanks?
* Does he use good judgment when I’m not around?
* Is she open to feedback?
* Would I recommend her to a friend?

And now that I’m receiving the newspaper (Wall Street Journal) each morning, I have a question for you: How much — and how often — are you supposed to tip your delivery person?

Deloitte CEO Speaks Out on Career Prep (and I Respond)

Have you ever wondered why there seems to be such a disconnect between college and career? You’re not alone. Deloitte CEO Barry Salzberg explores this topic today on the Wall Street Journal blog, “Hire Education.” You’ll find his commentary, along with my response, by going to this link:

http://on.wsj.com/hlB7r0

(Thank you, Mr. Salzberg, for writing this thoughtful post!) What are your thoughts? Please share them in the space below!

Reflections of a University Instructor

I wrote this last week for the USD (University of San Diego) counseling program newsletter. It’s a glimpse into what I do when I’m not promoting top performance in the workplace. Enjoy!

On Tuesday, Dec. 14th, my students and I will gather in a sunlit boardroom at Urban Corps, and enjoy one last group-supervision meeting. Warm smells of breakfast food will fill the air, holiday music will play in the background, and there’ll be lots of excited chitchat. A few of us might even dance.

We’ll do some actual work too, of course. But if anyone’s earned a celebration, these students have.

Practicum supervision gives emerging counselors a safe place to vent their concerns, reflect on their personal and professional growth, and share victories.

Some victories I’ve observed:

• Watching students go from shadowing their supervisors to meeting with clients on their own (and finding they much prefer it this way)

• A student’s chance encounter with a client in recovery, one that offers hope and encouragement, and quite possibly makes the difference in that client staying sober

• Seeing a lightbulb go on as students discover one more way to integrate theory into practice

• Reading in a student’s journal, “Last night’s process group rocked!” and “I guess I really am cut out for this work.”

I’m not giving up the paycheck, but I think it’s safe to say these victories are priceless.

Holidays in the Workplace: 3 Ways to Make ’em Happy

Have you ever struggled with how to treat the holidays at your workplace?

A friend of mine, who’s Catholic, was asked to plan the office Christmas party. He explained to his boss (a Muslim) that it was probably more appropriate to call it a holiday party.

The boss shrugged and said, “Who are we bullshitting? It’s a Christmas party.”

No matter what you call it, I think you’ll find in the end, it’s all about respect. Here are 3 ways you can minimize holiday tensions and brighten up your workplace (if you look around, you’ll find these tips apply to all of us, not just Gen Y):

1. Brush up on a few traditions other than your own. A good link to get you started: http://www.interfaithcalendar.org. In the right context (e.g., in the lunch room, one on one), questions such as, “How do you celebrate the holidays?” can break the ice.

Just don’t assume that everyone celebrates the same way. For example, imagine you’re my friend Gilat (who’s Jewish), and one day you walk in to work to find your cubicle decorated for Christmas. Better to invite others to participate, and let them decide.

2. Stick with gifts that aren’t too personal. This especially applies when gifting your boss. Golf balls, maybe. Cologne? Probably not. A paperweight from her alma mater? Sure. A sweatshirt in extra-large? Not so much. Too personal!

Your relationship with your boss and co-workers is professional. Why not keep your gifts the same way?

3. Say thank you. How often have you been thanked too much? Probably not ever. Who doesn’t like to be appreciated? Look for opportunities to show your gratitude, preferably in ways that matter to the other person. More about this in a future post.

Have you taken this month’s Maestro poll? Scroll to Your Thoughts? at the bottom of the Maestro home page to let your voice be heard! Also, we love having your comments on our blog. Please share your workplace-holiday stories, rants, or musings in the box below.